Being Successful with Coparenting
Building a coparenting relationship with your children's other parent isn't always easy. These resources can help.
Strengthening Coparenting Relationships
Communicating Effectively — Effective communication skills is key to a strong coparenting relationship. Learn some tips to help you communicate with your children’s other parent during the family transition and beyond.
What Are Your Coparenting Strengths? (PDF) — Every parent brings certain strengths (knowledge, experience, skills, etc.) to the parenting role. Use this worksheet to reflect on your own strengths, as well as the strengths of your coparent.
Staying Connected to Your Children and Coparent — After a family transition like divorce or separation, children need their parents more than ever. Finding ways to stay positively connected to both your children and your children’s other parent will benefit your whole family in the end.
Reflecting on Hopes and Dreams for Your Children (PDF) — Use this self-reflection exercise to explore the hopes and dreams that you and your children's other parent have for your children. Build on the things that you both have in common: your best intentions for your children!
Creating a Parenting Plan — Parenting plans are essential tools for coparents in keeping their children’s best interests at heart after a family transition. Get tools, like We Agree: Creating a Parenting Plan, and guidance on creating a parenting plan for your own family. English | español.
Important Information About Our Children (PDF) — It’s important that both you and your children’s other parent have the same list of important contact numbers for your children’s lives. Use this worksheet to record the information and share with your coparent.
Issues in Coparenting
Coping with Abandonment — Children do best when they have a relationship with both of their parents, but sometimes this is not possible. Here are some tips for talking to your children about abandonment.
Boundary Ambiguity Scale #5 for Divorced Adults (PDF) — Divorce means not only ending a romantic relationship; it also means re-establishing boundaries between you and your children’s other parent. Take this self-assessment to see about the ambiguity of your own boundaries.
Games Divorcing Parents Play Webinar — Learn about games divorcing parents frequently play. This is a recorded free webinar for parents and professionals; certificate is available upon completion.
Parenting in the Age of Overindulgence — Overindulgence is giving your child too much of anything that can delay their development. These online courses and resources help parents identify and prevent overindulgence in their homes.
Tips for Managing Conflict — While divorce and separations often go hand-in-hand with conflict, it’s imperative that you try to minimize conflict in your children’s lives. While complete conflict resolution may not be possible, these tips can help you manage the conflict.
Managing Anger in Conflict — If you can keep a handle on the anger that you feel during conflict, it may help minimize the effects of that conflict. Everyone in your family will benefit.
Working Through a Conflict (PDF) — While conflict management is rarely easy, there are some established conflict management steps that can help work through conflict issues. Use this worksheet to guide you and the other parent through the process of identifying and discussing issues that arise during the family transition process and beyond.
Life After a Divorce or Separation
Where Do Stepfamilies Fit into the Picture? (PDF) — Creating a new, or blended family, is a process that goes through many stages. To make sure that unrealistic expectations don’t create additional stress, it's important to set some basic guidelines for stepfamilies. Part of the Parents Forever™ Parent Handbook.
Suggestions for Stepfamilies — It can take up to three years for a combined stepfamily to start functioning like a family. Review a summary of some of the unique challenges you’ll encounter as a stepparent and suggestions for how to approach the stepparent role.
How Age Affects Children’s Adjustment to Stepfamilies — Your children’s ages and stages of development may affect their reaction to a new stepfamily. Understanding what your children are experiencing may help you better handle the tensions that often accompany the transition process.
New Families and Traditions — Learn how to use communications, negotiation, and compromise to help navigate exploring and establishing traditions in new families.
With Kids and Divorce, There's More than a 'Day' in Holiday — Explore some things divorced parents can keep in mind to help ease the difficulty of holidays.
Holiday Gifts When Parents are Divorced — Get tips for approaching holiday gift giving when parenting apart.
Understanding Emotional and Social Changes — You may experience a range of emotions throughout a family transition. Likewise, you may discover that your social network has changed dramatically during the process. Find self-assessments and information to help you stay strong during this time of change.
Co-Parenting Tips for Divorced Parents — HelpGuide.org — Website reviews factors that can help strengthen parents’ coparenting relationship, and minimize the effects of divorce on children.
Divorced Kid: Stories from the 1970s Divorce Revolution — Minnesota Public Radio — Listen to this audio series on the divorce revolution of 1970s, and what has happened in the meantime to help reduce the effects of divorce on children.