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Grief and crisis decisions

Kathleen Cleberg and Sharon M. Danes, Extension Specialist and Professor — Family Social Science

Revised March 2010 by Sharon M. Danes.

During a crisis, stressful time, or disaster, the decision-making process can be greatly affected by our emotional responses to loss and grief. During this difficult time, a lot of decisions may have to be made. Be aware of the grief stages and their effect on decision-making. The following is Elizabeth Kübler Ross' model of grief stages, with comments on our ability to make decisions during each stage.

Emotions tend to be strong after a crisis. Know that this is normal. Because emotions run strong during these times, you will have to be aware that you might have to regulate them.

Regulating emotions means maintaining and regaining balance in the face of stress. For example, if anger is just bubbling below the surface and you feel it will explode any moment like lava from a volcano, you may have to take a walk to cool down or express the anger in a safe way. That way, you won't yell at your loved ones when it is not deserved and confuse them.

Remember, if ever it is important to ask for help it is after a disaster or major crisis. That request for help can be in the form of monetary help or sharing your feelings of anger or anxiety with others who will understand.


Kübler-Ross, E. (1969). On death and dying. New York: Macmillian.

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