Isolation isn't always caused by the geographic location in which we live. Rather, it may be caused by being too busy to do the things we enjoy, major life changes or the loss of shared experiences. This type of isolation may be an emotional isolation in which individuals feel they are all alone, that no one else is experiencing what they are experiencing, or that they have no one to turn to. Another reason for isolation is that people whose lives have changed may not have as much in common with people around them as they had in the past. For example, women who have moved from a metropolitan area to a rural community may not share the same interests as their new rural neighbors and no longer share the same interests as their former urban friends.

People experiencing isolation have a hard time maintaining relationships for several reasons. They may simply not have enough time to reach out to other people, or they may feel overwhelmed by what they have to do, at the same time feeling that they should be able to handle everything. These feelings may result in a lowering of selfesteem and feelings that they are not worthy of friendships.

People who feel isolated often find it hard to view their situation objectively and search for possible options. This inability to see alternatives often leads to feelings of being trapped, leading to extreme stress and loneliness.

Tensions may develop outside the family or within the family. Typically people don't understand the feelings being experienced. There are three possible solutions for people, women in particular, who are experiencing feelings of isolation. First, people can help themselves by changing their approach to their problems and by seeking help from others. They have to make opportunities for interaction with others. Second, family members and friends can offer emotional support and physical help. As caregivers, women often fall into the trap of giving up time for themselves. Once contact has been lost with others it becomes more and more difficult to regain these ties and build new ones. Finally, seek assistance from your community through organizations, churches and schools. Groups such as these provide women opportunities to talk with others and feel more a part of the whole community.

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