Temper Tantrums - Coping with Your Baby's

We all get upset when we are frustrated - when things do not go well, when we do not get our way. Babies and children are no different. Just noisier. When their cries of frustration and anger disturb our peace, we are unsure what to do. Before doing anything, be patient. This too shall pass. First try to understand what the tantrum is about. What is the source of frustration? Remember to stay calm, even though that's easier said than done.

What can you do when your baby is howling, screaming and kicking? That depends. If she is upset because she can't get back down the stairs or sit down when standing, teach your child how. Soon her abilities will match her desires.

If your baby is upset because she can't have a cookie or play with your glasses, try to interest her in a different activity or object. Some babies need your help to calm down. Holding her and talking softly can help your baby get in control of her strong feelings. If this doesn't work, ignore the tantrums. Read, look out a window or turn the other way. You should stay nearby, however.

When she sees that you're not paying attention, your child will eventually quiet down. Once your baby is calm, give her a hug and a little understanding -- her strong emotions are scary for her.

What if the temper tantrum is in a public place, like the grocery store? This is harder. Once again, try to interest baby in something else, like a toy or a picture on a cereal box. After a tantrum begins, you may have to put up with it. Your child is not the first to have one in public and won't be the last. Even people who frown or make comments have probably gone through it themselves. Ignore them.

Don't spank your child when she is having a tantrum. She is already out of control. It scares the child even more when you are out of control and angry. Resist the urge to do something. In the long run, doing nothing makes tantrums go away sooner.

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