Skip to Main navigation Skip to Left navigation Skip to Main content Skip to Footer

University of Minnesota Extension

Extension is almost done building a new website! Please take a sneak peek or read about our redesign process.

Extension > Family > School success > Families > Building stronger parent-child relationships

Print Icon Email Icon Share Icon


young woman with file at library

Building stronger parent-child relationships

When children have strong, positive relationship with their parents, they are more likely to succeed in school. Strengthening your relationship with your children may be easier than you think. It's sometime the little things you do — or don't do — that can take your parent-child relationships to the next level.

The following resources give you some areas to explore in your own relationships.

Encouraging Positive Behavior

Monitoring Tips — Get a better understanding of what monitoring is, why it's important, and modeling strategies you can use to build parent-child relationships.

Encouraging Respectful Behavior — Encourage your children to be respectful by demonstrating and teaching them about respect.

Helping children become responsible — Help your children to become more responsible by following these guidelines.

Praise that Builds a Child's Self-Esteem — Use praise to recognize the efforts and accomplishments of your children, and build their self-esteem in the process.

Monitoring Screen Time

TV Watching — Find out how much TV your children should be watching and get ideas for limiting TV time.

Video Games: A Problem or a Blessing? — Follow these guidelines to ensure that your children's video game usage works for rather than against them.

Teens and the internet — Get tips for talking with your teen about internet use, and learn what you can do to keep your teen safe while online. Part of the Teen Talk : A Survival Guide for Parents of Teenagers series.

Dealing with Misbehavior in a Positive Manner

Positive discipline: A guide for parents — Review tips for overcoming common parenting challenges from birth through early elementary years. Booklet available in English, Spanish, Hmong, and Somali; customization is also available.

Using Guidance Tools — Explore these strategies to help manage conflict and to teach responsibility to your children.

Setting Limits for Responsive Discipline — Provide a sense of security to your children by setting limits.

Guidelines for Setting Consequences — Use these guidelines to select effective consequences for your child.

Using 'time out' as a discipline tool — Follow these guidelines to select effective and get ideas for other discipline tools to consider.

Using natural and logical consequences — Get step-by-step instructions for using natural and logical consequences and see examples of this strategy in action.

What About Spanking? — Find out more about pros and cons of using spanking as a discipline tool.

Dealing with a child's anger — Help your child deal manage their anger and channel it into more positive action.

Controlling Your Own Anger — Learn to recognize your own anger triggers toward your child, and follow these strategies to manage your own anger.

Related resources

Relationships — Review what the research says about how adults in the home, in the school, and in the community help youth to be learners. Part of the Research on the factors for school success series.

Taking care of your children — Your children are going through their own family transition journey. Learn how to meet your children where they're at, strengthen your own parenting skills and parent child-relationships, and improve balance in your family's life.

Healthy Children — Get additional information to help you make informed decisions for the children, teenagers, and young adults in your care.

ParentingUniversity of Wisconsin Extension — Parenting newsletters on children's ages and stages. Available in English and Spanish.

Parenting 24/7University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign — Comprehensive website on raising children and managing family life.

Talking about violence and loss — How to have conversations with your children about substance use and school violence.

  • © Regents of the University of Minnesota. All rights reserved.
  • The University of Minnesota is an equal opportunity educator and employer. Privacy