Emotional and Social Changes
You may experience a range of emotions throughout the family transition. Depression, alcohol and drug abuse, and anger management issues are not uncommon in this type of situation. Know the signs that you need help and ask for that help.
You may also discover that your social network has changed dramatically during the process. You may be tempted to settle for poor support rather than no support, but you have a responsibility to keep yourself and your children safe from abuse.
Use these self-assessments and information to stay emotionally and socially strong during this time of change.
Dealing with Strong Emotions
Controlling Your Own Anger — Learn to recognize your own anger triggers toward your child, and follow these strategies to manage your own anger.
Sad or Depressed? Know the Difference — Get to know the signs of depressions and how to get professional help.
When Does Alcohol or Drug Use Become an Abuse? — Many people turn to alcohol or drugs when they are sad. Use this tool to get clarity on the situation and determine if you need help.
Dos and Don’ts of Managing Anger — Looking for some tips controlling your anger, particularly when dealing with your children’s other parent? See this list of dos and don’ts.
The Importance of Forgiveness — Learn more about how forgiveness can help you and your children move toward a healthier future.
Should We Reconcile? — Depending on your situation, you may still be considering whether the romantic relationship with your children’s other parent is completely over or if you will eventually get back together. This resource reviews things to consider before making the big decision.
Four Strategies for Preventing or Reducing Stress — Learn strategies to help you deal with stress.
Staying Safe in Your Relationships
Strengthening Your Support Network (698 K PDF) — Having a strong system of support can help parents and caregivers recover from a family transition and embrace the new reality. Assess your own support system network and get tips for developing new support systems. Part of the Parents Forever™ Parent Handbook.
Domestic Violence and Divorce — University of Missouri Extension — Describes the four types of domestic violence and provides guidance on how to deal with it.
Understanding Intimate Partner Violence — National Center for Injury Prevention and Control — Intimate partner violence (IPV) occurs between two people in a close relationship. This fact sheet reviews why IPV is an issue, the health risks, and who’s at risk.
Safety Planning in Abusive Relationships — Experts recommend that victims of domestic abuse create a safety plan to prevent future harm to themselves or their children. Get tips for creating your own plan today.
How to Spot Child Abuse — Child abuse can be physical, sexual, or emotional. Neglect is also a form of child abuse. Learn how to recognize the signs of child abuse.
Minnesota’s Domestic Violence Services and Programs — Minnesota Coalition for Battered Women — Find the contact information for a domestic violence program near you to get the help you need.
Dealing with Stress — Online resources and courses to help you recognize and deal with the stress in your life.
Dealing with Stress: A Web-Based Educational Series — Online workshops help you identify and battle the stress. For those in agriculture or anyone experiencing stress. Includes Workshop 11: Getting Good Professional Help.
Managing Anger in Conflict — If you can keep a handle on the anger that you feel during conflict, it may help minimize the effects of that conflict. Everyone in your children will benefit.