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Dealing with Stress

Grief and Crisis Decisions

Kathleen Cleberg and Sharon M. Danes, Extension Specialist and Professor — Family Social Science

Revised March 2010 by Sharon M. Dane.

During a stressful period or disaster, the decision-making process can be greatly affected by our emotional responses to loss and grief. During this difficult time, a lot of decisions may have to be made. Be aware of the grief stages and their effect on decision-making. The following is Elizabeth Kubler Ross' model of grief stages, with comments on our ability to make decisions during each stage.

Emotions tend to be strong after a disaster. Know that this is normal. Because emotions run strong during these times, you will have to be aware that you might have to regulate them.

Regulating emotions means, for example, that if anger is just bubbling below the surface and you feel it will explode any moment like lava from a volcano, you may have to find a place where you can run it off or express it in another safe way. That way you won't yell at your children when it is not deserved and confuse them.

Remember, if ever it is important to ask for help it is after a disaster or major crisis. That request for help can be in the form of monetary help or sharing your feelings of anger or anxiety with others who will understand.

Related Resources

After a Natural Disaster: Managing Anger — Change how you see things, say how you feel, and calm down.

Dealing with Stress — Stress can be overwhelming in tough times — learn strategies that can help you cope and overcome it.

Extreme Weather — Extension resources for floods, wind damage, winter impacts, and more.

Adjusting to Suddenly Reduced Income (9.9 MB PDF) — Take into account both the emotional and financial aspects of sudden income loss.

Getting Through Tough Times — Fact sheet series on getting help, making financial decisions with less, dealing with stress, talking to children about tough times, and more.

Source

Kübler-Ross, E. (1969). On death and dying. New York: Macmillian.

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