April 2, 1998
As devastating as crisis and loss is to adults, it can be worse for children and teens. Sharon Danes, Professor in Family Social Science at the University of Minnesota, says young people need special attention in the wake of a disaster.
Some parents find it difficult or impossible to discuss disaster with their children. Others feel talking about the crisis will only upset children more. In fact, children need to bring their fears, fantasies and confusions out into the open. Parents can help children by talking to them and giving them simple explanations that the child can understand. Adults must try to avoid needless alarm and panic, children are looking to them for cues on how to behave and feel.
Teens often respond to distress by trying to handle it alone or by talking to other teens. In a crisis, they need to feel they can rely on adults. Parents should encourage teens to talk and take what they say seriously. Just knowing someone is aware of their pain can mean a great deal.
Whether responding to children or teens, remember that it is natural for them to express disbelief, anger, sadness, anxiety, and depression. Emotions will rollercoaster and moods change suddenly. Be patient and try to show by your words and actions that you care.
Source, University of Minnesota Extension Science
Writer: Kathleen Cleberg, Communications, phone (612)624-3259, kcleberg@extension.umn.edu
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