What Do I Expect from My Child Care Provider?

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Choosing and using child care is one of the most important tasks of parenting. Many parents experience feelings of guilt and anxiety with this experience. Understanding yourself and your expectations of your provider can help you build a positive partnership and reduce anxiety.

Look At Yourself First

The decision to have someone care for your child can challenge the attitudes, values, and decisions that you've made as a parent.

For example, if you are unhappy with your job or your decision to work outside the home you may have a hard time feeling comfortable with your child care situation. You may resent your provider's time with your child and choose not to develop a relationship with him or her. You could expect too little or too much from your child care provider because you wish you could provide full-time care for your child. Feeling satisfied with your decision to work outside the home will help you feel better about your decision to use child care.

If you are married, look at your relationship. Have you talked about your expectations regarding quality care? Who will take major responsibility for working with the provider or will it be shared? What will happen when your child or provider is sick? All of these expectations between partners need to be discussed up front. Confusion about who does what and different feelings about using child care will affect the parent-provider relationship.

Also, consider what you need from your provider. What are your beliefs regarding child care and parenting? How do you feel about pacifiers, infant feeding, toilet training, discipline, and education? What are the values you want your child to learn? Do you want religion included in your child's daily care? How will you communicate these to your provider?

How do you want him or her to communicate with you? When do you want to be called if there's a problem during the day? Determine how involved you can be in the child care experience. Do you want to be able to drop in? Do you want to get involved in center activities? Respect your child care provider as a professional. No matter how friendly you may become, remember, this is a business. Never ask your provider to break licensing rules, tax laws, or provisions of your contract to meet your needs. Pay on time. Pick up your child on time. Common courtesy is important. Keep in mind that you have a responsibility to keep your end of the bargain.

What You Can Expect from the Provider

There is no perfect provider just like there is no perfect parent. No provider will care for your child exactly as you would. When you choose child care, look for qualities that are the most important to you. Recognize that differences can add to your child's experience. Here are some considerations on what to expect from child care providers:

For Your Child

1. Does the provider understand how a child develops and grows and does he adapt care and education to your child's needs?
   
   
2. Does she allow the children to choose from a variety of activities?
   
   
3. Does he create multi-cultural and nonsexist experiences and materials for all ages?
   
   
4. Is there a balance of rest and active movement throughout the day?
   
   
5. Does the provider create outdoor experiences?
   
   
6. Does she respond quickly and directly to your child's needs, desires, and messages, and adapt her responses to differences in children?
   
   
7. Does he give opportunities for your child to communicate?
   
   
8. Does she help your child's successful completion of a task by providing support?
   
   
9. Is he alert for signs of your child's stress and try to help reduce it?
   
   
10. Does she provide opportunities for the development of self-esteem and self-control?
    
    
11. Is he responsible for all children under his supervision?
    
    
12. Does she provide a safe, nurturing, and positive environment that lets your child feel comfortable and cared for?
    
    

For You the Parent

1. Does the provider respect your right as a parent to share in decisions about your child's care and education?
   
   
2. Does he share his knowledge and insights about your child with you as part of regular communication?
   
   
3. Does she meet minimum requirements for licensing and re-licensing? She should comply with licensing or food program regulations.
   
   

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